Schedule of Services:

- Sunday -

Sunday School - 9:30am
Sunday Worship - 10:45am
Fellowship Meal - Noon
Afternoon Worship- 1:00pm

(LORD'S SUPPER on Third Sundays at 1:00pm)

Note: Families are encouraged to use Sunday afternoons and evenings for rest, family enrichment and/or ministry.

- Tuesday -

Ladies Meetings (call church)

- Wednesday -

Prayer service - 6:30pm

- Thursday -

Outreach - 6:30pm

- Saturday -

Men's Meeting - 8:00am
Ladies meetings
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Southside Baptist Church
1028 South Water Avenue P.O. Box 1594
Gallatin, TN 37066
615 452 5951

WINNING OVER CONFLICT! or...

Volume 35, No. 15, April 14, 2009 / Southside Baptist Church & Christian School / P.O. Box 1594 / 1028 South Water Avenue, Gallatin, TN 37066 (615) 452-5951) "But grow in grace, and in the knowledge of our LORD and Saviour JESUS CHRIST. To Him be glory both now and forever. Amen." (2 Peter 3:18)

WINNING OVER CONFLICT!... Or the Easy Road!

TO WHOM IT MAY CONCERN: If you don't need this now, PRAISE THE LORD! But Cheer Up!... you will… sooner or later!

The details differ but the core situations are agonizingly similar in homes, churches, the work place and/or families: 1. Wrong words are spoken and/or wrong deeds are done. 2. There is denial, self-justification and/or defensiveness. 3. There's lots of anger and finger pointing and hurt. Now what?

You can- if you so choose- keep blasting each other. With every blast, you will give the other side more ammunition. Indeed, you can keep shooting at each other, pointing out the other's faults (real or imagined) until hell freezes over - you will never run out of ammunition. You can FEEL JUSTIFIED every step of the way and build an army to agree with you! You can write each other off and refuse to seek reconciliation and leave a marriage and/or a church and/or a friendship, but just remember: Such paths are not sanctioned by JESUS, the Holy Spirit or by His Holy Word and JUDGMENT DAY IS COMING!

HOWEVER, I HAVE SUPER GOOD NEWS: When wrong deeds are done and/or wrong words are said - there are simple and EASY Biblical solutions!

  1. Make NO excuse for your own wrongs.
  2. BE GRACIOUS AND MERCIFUL toward those who have wronged you.
  3. Confess your own sin, only - it was wrong, it was against God and against others: "When I did or said 'so-and-so' I was wrong, please forgive me!"
  4. I repeat: Henceforth, I will NOT focus on the sins of others, only my own; and I will make sure that I rest in God's forgiveness for my sin, forgive others even as God for Christ sake has forgiven me (Eph 4:29-32); and humbly ask for the forgiveness of any who I have wronged in word or deed. Moreover, a sinful word or deed done to me NEVER justifies a sinful response from me! (Rom. 12:14-21; Eph. 4:29-32; Phil. 2:1-16)
  5. Note: When a person who has wronged me comes repenting, I must and I will forgive as often as they so come! Jesus says so! (Luke 17:1-5) That's horizontal forgiveness which is conditioned upon their repenting!
  6. However, always and immediately, regardless if they ever repent or not, I will VERTICALLY forgive, bless and do good! (Eph. 4:29-32; Rom. 12:14-21; Matt. 5:43-48) WARNING: If I refuse to forgive, I may well be GIVEN OVER TO TORMENTORS: Matt. 18:21-35)
  7. In so much as matters depend on me, I must also reaffirm fellowship in Christ and go forward.

But what if I have already responded to the sinful words or deeds of others with my own sinful responses? NOW WHAT?

Simply, I must turn from any pity party or anger or wrath or evil speaking or getting even or of trying to make them pay and, instead, function as the God-called minister of RECONCILIATION that I am! (2 Cor. 5:17-21)

  • I must submit to the YOKE OF JESUS and confess my sin and not yours.
  • I must repent of my anger, wrath and evil speaking.
  • I must ask for the forgiveness of those toward whom I have demonstrated my fleshly attitudes (Gal. 5:19-21)
  • And I must, then forgive offences done against me, proceeding with words and actions that encourage reconciliation. (Rom. 12:14-21; Eph. 4:29-32; Matt. 5:43-48; Gal. 5:22-24; 2 Cor. 5:17-21)

THIS WAY IS REALLY EASY!

Pardon me, Sir: You keep using that word EASY. I do not agree. The path you have set forth above is NOT EASY! My flesh hates it!

Yes, I understand; AND MY FLESH AGREES WITH YOUR FLESH! BUT MY FLESH AND YOUR FLESH ARE BIG FAT LIARS!

Jesus says that HIS YOKE IS EASY! "Come unto me, all ye that labour and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you, and learn of me; for I am meek and lowly in heart: and ye shall find rest unto your souls. For my yoke is easy, and my burden is light." (Matt. 11:28-30)

That is the path being unfolded in this article - the path of the EASY YOKE of Jesus! The Bible also says that the way of the TRANSGRESSOR is hard! (Prov. 13:15) HARDNESS is what is presently being experienced as we heed our own understanding; and it won't get better until YOU and I YOKE UP WITH JESUS!

WHEN THE EASY STEPS OF JESUS ARE NOT TAKEN -

We deny... even lie... cuddling up to the author of all lies, satan. We get mad. We start and/or continue shooting DEFENSIVE, NON EDIFYING WORDS at each other and blasting one another to our friends as we develop an evil army to defend us and destroy our offender! We break off relationships, friendships, marriages, Church membership, etc.

Moreover, instead of submitting to GOD ORDAINED LEADERSHIP IN THE CHURCH, we rebel and go our own independent way; and may even turn to the WORLD to defend our case, just like the carnal Corinthians who took each other to the court of man, while rejecting the judgment/justice and mercy that God ordains through the church.

IN PRIDE, we do ANYTHING OTHER THAN humbly coming to the cross. AND IN PRIDE, we become TOTALLY BLINDED to the fact that it is ONLY by pride that contention flourishes; and by pride we are blinded to the reality that we are grieving the Holy Spirit, breaking the heart of Jesus, and pointing people, especially our children toward hell and not heaven. SUCH ARE THE WAYS WE TAKE WHEN WE TRAVEL THE HARD ROAD OF TRANSGRESSORS!

Nevertheless, for those who have 'ears to hear' what the Holy Spirit says - IT IS TIME TO BE SUBMIT TO THE EASY YOKE OF JESUS!

In spite of all of the evil that has been said or done which pleases satan and slanders Jesus - Nevertheless, today is a day of mercy and grace! God is calling each of us to a wonderful opportunity to DEFEAT our flesh and the lying devil.

The road to freedom starts as we SUBMIT TO GOD. (This defeats our flesh) Now, restored in fellowship with God in Christ, we can RESIST THE DEVIL and he MUST flee! (James 4:7). Thus, we have a wonderful opportunity to not only defeat our flesh and the devil, but a wonderful opportunity to experience GRACE greater than our sin, to bring glory and honor to Jesus; and to give a powerful witness to the world around us!

HERE'S HOW to get off the HARD ROAD and on to the EASY ROAD:

  1. Get alone with Jesus and His Word and ask the HOLY SPIRIT to guide you according to the pure Word of God... and not according to your emotions.
  2. Get pen and paper. Make yourself aware that JESUS IS PRESENT... Now:
  3. "LORD JESUS, GUIDE MY PEN TO WRITE DOWN ANY AND ALL THAT I and I ALONE HAVE DONE OR SAID THAT DID NOT PLEASE YOU!" Make your list...
  4. Make NO excuse.
  5. MAKE GODLY CONFESSIONS, like these: "LORD, I confess MY own sin, only. It was wrong; it was against God and against you. LORD, I REFUSE TO point out the sins of anyone else. LORD JESUS, I ask God's forgiveness. LORD JESUS, I WILL GO AND ask the forgiveness of the person or persons I wronged."
  6. "LORD, IF SOMEONE COMES ASKING FOR FORGIVENESS... I WILL grant forgiveness to the person asking for forgiveness. We will reaffirm fellowship in Christ and we go forward."
  7. "LORD JESUS... EVEN IF THEY NEVER ASK FOR FORGIVENESS OF WHAT I BELIEVE TO BE THEIR SIN - I WILL STILL DEAL WITH MINE AND IN MY HEART I WILL FORGIVE THEM... AND I WILL INVEST IN THEM WITH LOVE, AND BLESSINGS AND PRAYER AND WITH DOING GOOD... JUST AS YOUR WORD COMMANDS!" (Rom 12:14-21)
  8. "LORD JESUS, I RESPONDED TO WRONG DEEDS AND WORDS WITH MY OWN WRONG WORDS AND DEEDS... I NOW EMBRACE YOUR easy solution!" (THE SAME ABOVE STEPS OF Confessing my sin... not yours; Confessing my sin... not justifying my anger because you may have wronged me... Asking forgiveness of my sin... Going forward in restored fellowship!)

    PRAISE GOD... THIS WAY IS REALLY EASY!

    CHOOSE! Here are the ways of the HARD ROAD:
    BEWARE! A MULTITUDE OF VOICES BECKON - 1. Live for yourself. 2. Pleasure, fame, fortune--all for self. 3. Glory and Honor for self. 4. Justify self. 5. Defend self. 6. Blame others. Fill the air waves with Smokescreens. 7. Revenge, Bitterness, Envy, Hate. 8. Refuse to Forgive and to Sacrificially Love. 9. Trust in self and in those who will encourage self. 10. Rebel Against God-given Authority. 11. Be a victim. Join V.A. (Victims Anonymous).

    CHOOSE! Here are expressions of the EASY ROAD, in the Steps of Jesus:
    NO ONE has ever suffered such injustice as Jesus! And yet, Gaze Upon Him and See - 1. There was no resentment. 2. There were no plans for revenge. 3. He had no bitterness. He held no grudges. 4. There was no self pity. 5. He never demanded His rights. 6. There was no anger, no depression.

    INSTEAD: 1.There was Silent Suffering for the sake of others. 2. There was Meekness, Gentleness, Humility, and Acceptance. 3. There was Love and Forgiveness and Prayer for those who had betrayed and tormented Him. 4. Moreover, there was abiding trust in His Father! 5. And there was Sweet Submission to the will of His Father! 6. He lived to GIVE....not to get! O WHAT AMAZING FOOTPRINTS HE LEFT FOR US TO FOLLOW AFTER! (And don't forget, no one ever lived a happier more joyful life on earth than Jesus!)

    Look yet again. Drink deeply: Jesus Has Set Before Us An Extraordinary Example of, 1. Silence in Suffering; 2. Nonresistance; 3. Returning Good for Evil; 4. Love; 5. Forgiveness; 6. Abiding Trust in His Father; 7. SUBMISSION to His Father;
  9. Please note: His silence in suffering was not a secret PITY PARTY, nor a state of Passivity! He was anointed with the oil of GLADNESS above all others who have ever lived.
  10. Please also under score this: The silence and suffering of Jesus does not cancel out the Biblical mandate of PUNISHMENT FOR SIN. Indeed, on the cross, Jesus paid the stiff penalty for our sin; and from the New Testament GOSPEL MESSAGE we are assured that VENGEANCE IS MINE, says the LORD, He will repay! The way of the cross, (THE EASY ROAD!) RELEASES AND RELIEVES US FROM THE PAYBACK BUSINESS!

The Hard Road? THE EASY ROAD? AS A CHRISTIAN, I CONFESS:

  1. I MUST walk the EASY ROAD yoked to Jesus because that is the Real Essence of what it means to be a Genuine Christian! (John 10: 27-28; 1 Peter 2:21; 1 John 2:6)
  2. I MUST walk the EASY ROAD yoked to Jesus because that is what God commands in His WORD! (Rom. 12:19,21; Matthew 5:44; 1 Peter 2:18-21)
  3. I MUST walk the EASY ROAD yoked to Jesus less my actions and reactions to circumstances and people CAUSE me to deny Jesus and Grieve the Holy Spirit; and rob me of a life of joy and amazing miracles! (Philippians 1-4)
  4. I MUST walk the EASY ROAD yoked to Jesus for God has not authorized me to take His Divine Prerogative of vengeance!( Romans 12:19-21; Matthew 5:44-47)
  5. I MUST walk the EASY ROAD yoked to Jesus, for God has personally designed my own Road for His glory and for my good! (Romans 8:28; Genesis 45:8; Genesis 50:19-20)
  6. I MUST walk the EASY ROAD yoked to Jesus, less I lose perspective! (Genesis 50:19-20; Philippians 1:12-14)
  7. I MUST walk the EASY ROAD yoked to Jesus because, LOVE is better than hate!
    FORGIVENESS is better than bitterness!
    FAITH is better than unbelief!
    TRUST IN GOD is better than despair! SUBMISSION/OBEDIENCE TO GOD is better than rebellion!
    Moreover, THE EASY ROAD IS THE PATHWAY TO HEAVEN. ALL OTHER ROADS... IF FOLLOWED TO THEIR END, LEAD STRAIGHT TO HELL.
  8. I MUST walk the EASY ROAD yoked to Jesus because SUCH IS THE PATH where supernatural GRACE is found, where POWER AND DESIRE to follow Jesus rise up within me and where I experience anointing from God and CUPS RUNNING OVER! (Ps 23!)

IT IS TIME TO GO FORWARD IN THE STEPS OF JESUS!

  1. The next forward step must be one of repentance! As I repent of my previous- GOING MY OWN WAY, I REPENT OF SINFUL DEEDS THAT I HAVE DONE AND THEN ADDED SIN TO SIN BY LYING....JUST LIKE KING DAVID DID LONG AGO.

    I repent of LEANING TO MY OWN UNDERSTANDING, DRINKING IN COUNSEL THAT HAS JUSTIFIED MY FLESH AND CONDEMNING OTHERS-- LORD JESUS, I HAVE STRAYED... AND NOW I AM COMING HOME. THE RESULTS WILL BE THAT Floodgates of MERCY and GRACE will come open! (Proverbs 28:13)
  2. I CHOOSE to Announce to myself a Proclamation of Reception of my DIVINELY designed EASY Road! (Romans 8:28; 1 Peter 2:19-23)
  3. Jesus walked the EASY ROAD of being YOKED to His Father! Jesus says to us today! "Come unto me, all ye that labour and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you, and learn of me; for I am meek and lowly in heart: and ye shall find rest unto your souls. For my yoke is easy, and my burden is light." (Matt. 11:28-30)

    MERCY and ABOUNDING GRACE TO ALL IN CHRIST! ~ James Bell

GRACE TO ALL!

www.southsidegallatin.org / James Bell

Schedule of Services:

- Sunday -

Sunday School - 9:30am
Sunday Worship - 10:45am
Fellowship Meal - Noon
Afternoon Worship- 1:00pm

(LORD'S SUPPER on Third Sundays at 1:00pm)

Note: Families are encouraged to use Sunday afternoons and evenings for rest, family enrichment and/or ministry.

- Tuesday -

Ladies Meetings (call church)

- Wednesday -

Prayer service - 6:30pm

- Thursday -

Outreach - 6:30pm

- Saturday -

Men's Meeting - 8:00am
Ladies meetings
(call church)
 

Mapquest Map

 

Southside Baptist Church
1028 South Water Avenue P.O. Box 1594
Gallatin, TN 37066
615 452 5951